�Chapter 3: Soul Mates
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John�s Descendant in Libra
Though somewhat headstrong and impulsive yourself - and very
independent - you are drawn to a person who has more balance and grace and who
is happy to make compromises for the sake of harmony in the partnership.
This person should be a hard-working and conscientious type,
with a fine sense of discrimination. Through this person you learn to analyze
situations so that you may organize yourself efficiently.
Perhaps you evoke the peace-maker in a partner because you
spend so much time charging in without considering the consequences. Through
partnership you may learn how to create balance in your life, whilst pursuing
your many dynamic missions. If you feel your partner is somewhat indecisive or
vacillating you should know that people often react this way with you, because
they feel that more time should be dedicated to weighing up the pros-and-cons.
Personal independence versus consideration for another is the major issue in
the relationship - time will show that a true relationship is a process of
give-and-take.
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Yoko�s Descendant in Aries
Though you are a person who seeks to create peace and
harmony around yourself, you are drawn to dynamic and decisive types who have a
strong need for independence and a clear idea of what they want in life.
This person should be a hard-working and conscientious type,
with a fine sense of discrimination. Through this person you learn to analyze
situations so that you may organize yourself efficiently.
Your partner can be exciting to be with, though often
apparently temperamental or impulsive. This may be because you tend to suppress
your own spontaneity or decision-making powers when you are in your partner's
company. You are attuned to a certain naivet� and innocence in your partner - a
youthful buoyancy which is an attractive quality for you. Through partnership
you may learn to overcome your tendencies to vacillate and compromise too much.
Leadership issues are important in the relationship, and you will learn that
there are times when it pays to assert yourself.
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John�s ASC in Yoko�s 7th house
Yoko strives to accommodate your choice of life-style to
ensure a harmonious partnership. She develops a greater consideration and
willingness to compromise, to live up to your expectations of the relationship.
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Yoko�s� ASC in� John�s 6th house
Your life-style teaches John how to organize his life and
integrate himself into society. He responds to you by being helpful and taking his
share of the daily grind.
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Yoko�s� ASC Sex Moon, Tri Saturn
Expressing your emotions is integral with your way of being
and you project a strong persona which defines the mood of your environment.
You seek to lead a balanced life emotionally, striving to integrate your
relationship and family needs into a rewarding and secure life-style.
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You are a person who takes relationships seriously, and you
are prepared to work hard to make a long-term success of a romance. In return
you expect maturity in a partner, and prefer someone who knows how to get on
professionally, as you do. You are not thrown off course by temporary setbacks,
and you know that a good relationship has to be worked at.
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John�s ASC Conj Yoko�s� Uranus and
Sq her Pluto
John Though not a
major influence in your relationship, this contact brings a powerful element of
the unpredictable into your life. The way you are and the way you relate
somehow provokes Yoko inexplicably creating an atmosphere of instability which
makes it very difficult for the relationship to come onto an even keel. There
are radical differences between you in terms of cultural norms or life-view.
She feels a need to challenge the path you are on, and goad the people you like
to be with. Tensions create an on/off relationship, with frequent separations.
Being with Yoko means living a life of constant change.
Radical and unforeseen changes in Yoko's life often mean you
have to suddenly change direction when you least expect it.
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Though not a major influence in the relationship, this
contact awakens the deepest repressed emotional drives in Yoko. Your values in
life and in relationships somehow stimulate a latent anxiety in her and she
reacts to this by trying to control the way you choose to live your life.
Powerful passions, possessiveness and jealousies can undermine the love between
you. Under psychological pressure you tend to retreat and become more
secretive, and through fear of loss Yoko may paradoxically threaten to amputate
the bond between you. There is an atmosphere of ultimatum. This influence
necessitates psychological growth and insights.
Ascendant first: Statements of intent from your side tend to
pull the rug out from Yoko's feet.
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Yoko Your
relationship will never stand still for long. If it does you are certain to
find ways of lighting a fuse under it to bring a touch of excitement. This
means however that there is an element of instability in the way you relate
together. Unless this is checked, separations may arise for shorter or longer
periods. Your desire for change expresses itself very provocatively. Under
emotional pressure you tend to be frosty and very distant. Intimacy suddenly
dissolves and you seem a million miles away. Your message, at such times, is
that permanence cannot be relied upon, nobody owns anybody else and you can
manage fine without a relationship. Beware that this does not become a
self-fulfilling prophecy.
Drastic changes initiated by you in your search for novelty
or growth will radically affect the direction that John takes and unsettle him
in his daily life.
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This powerful contact brings an obsessive intensity into
your relationship in which power and powerlessness play important roles. You
use a great deal of energy trying to steer the way John leads his life and
therefore risk becoming an autocratic figure who inspires more fear than love.
Having chosen a partner whose life-style awakens anxiety and insecurity in you,
you are confronted by an undercurrent of jealousy, sexual compulsion or lack of
self-worth. You may respond with a deep analysis of your partner's motives and
psychological patterns - but this kind of therapy, lacking sensitivity and
compassion, only serves to make him insecure. The psyches are laid bare and you
both become vulnerable to psychological breakdown. The solution is: do not try
to change your partner to assuage your insecurity. Any therapy should be done
by professionals.
Changes in your partner's life-style cast
you into crisis. But you can have no control over the fate of another.
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John�s DESC ruler in 6th house
Your partner is likely to be a very busy person and you will
probably become heavily involved in getting your everyday life together to
function smoothly to cope with the many duties and responsibilities which you
have. You tend to meet your partner in your working environment or whilst
involved in some professional project.
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Yoko�s DESC ruler in 12th house Sq Moon, Opp Mercury, and Con Jupiter and
Neptune
Your partner tends to be an unassuming and retiring type of
person, helpful and humble, with a deep and unexpressed longing. You meet your
partner in a place where you try to get away from it all - in a secluded place
in the countryside or in some kind of institution away from the bustle of
everyday life. Being alone with your partner is a healthy activity in your
relationship, as is meditative activity.
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You experience a lot of emotional ups-and-downs in your
partnership, partly because your own insecurities come to the fore when you
make an emotional commitment. It is difficult to know whether it is you or your
partner who is more inclined to irrational behavior, but if you tuned in more
to your deepest feelings instead of instinctively going on the defensive, you
could gain insight into yourself and attain more stability in your relationship.
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Relationships are extremely mentally stimulating for you.
You are attracted to a knowledgeable and clever partner, but you will often
find that your ideas are at cross-purposes. This may mean a lot of discussion
and debate and sometimes arguments and nagging. You take a somewhat rational
attitude which may mean you may sort out your practical problems but you may be
left high and dry, when deeper emotional issues need to be resolved.
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You are attracted to a wise but rather opinionated partner
who can expand your intellectual horizons. Unfortunately there are many
disagreements about matters of principle and discussions about right and wrong.
You often feel unfairly treated and fight for your rights. A relationship helps
you define your beliefs and spiritual values, but both of you need to respect
the other's freedom of belief.
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Your partner will often seem confused and dreamy and
sometimes a little sad. You should bear in mind, however, that feelings of
sadness and despair in your partner are projections of existential issues which
are also a major part of your own nature. Even though your partner will seem
difficult for you to satisfy emotionally, this will evoke an accepting and
caring side in your own nature which helps you develop as a human being.
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John�s 7th house:
Mercury
The most important criterion for you when choosing a partner
is the ability to communicate well. You are looking for a person who you can
tune into mentally, discuss issues with, and generally have an interesting time
with. You are attracted to youthful elf-like types with mischief and humor. You
have a tendency to evoke superficiality in your partner because of an
unconscious desire to avoid deeper issues. Partnerships often bring a special
dilemma connected with choice between two people. Marriage for you is a mutual
learning process and a meeting of minds.
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Yoko�s 7th house:
Uranus
You have a need for an unconventional partnership. Partners
can be much older or much younger or from another land or culture for example,
or be away for long periods of time. If you make the mistake of a conventional
marriage early in life, the likelihood of divorce is strong. Because you tend
to break accepted conventions in relationships, the stability of your
relationship is not protected by the usual strict taboos of marriage. There are
times when you distance yourself from your partner emotionally, and this
behavior can result in periodic separations or a certain coolness between you.
Do exciting things together, otherwise boredom can creep in.
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Chapter 4: Love and Sex
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John�s Venus in Virgo in 6th house
Although you have a certain sensuality you are rather
nervous in your love-relationships, partly because you are somewhat
self-critical, especially about your appearance, but also because you are so aware
of flaws in your partner. Practical issues such as your economy, career, and
the organization of your daily life together, are important to you when
choosing your partner. You often express your romantic feelings through being
very helpful. Take care that you do not end up performing the services of a
home-help rather than a lover.
Your are attracted to a woman with a responsible attitude
who can both assist you in organizing your life and help you see issues more
clearly.
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Your needs to express affection and make social contacts are
strongly manifested within your working environment. You express yourself
rather hesitantly but with superior discrimination in this area, and work hard
to achieve perfection.
You are very good at organizing people in a friendly way and
you have special skills at creating harmony amongst the people you work with -
perhaps because of your aesthetic sense. Romance blossoms at work.
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Yoko�s Venus in Aquarius in 5th house
You have a generous heart and it is not in your nature to
give your love to one person alone, though you may be a loyal partner if that
is what is expected. But you also need to cultivate your friends and
humanitarian interests. You may often feel an attraction to an exotic type of
partner - perhaps because you feel a strong need to experiment romantically.
Love gives you an opportunity for renewal and often brings dramatic change into
your life. Emotionally you may be quite distant - cool even - and this may
reduce the enjoyment of intimacy.
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You have an extremely winning way of projecting yourself and
this makes you a popular and well-loved person. In this area you develop
unusual contacts with original people who may revolutionize your values.
You need a lot of feedback with regard to your
attractiveness, and may actually be rather flirtatious and attention-seeking.
This will result in love affairs during the course of your life and, indeed,
there is nothing like a romance to add a little spice. Having children provides
a good outlet for your love of fun and pleasure.
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John�s Venus in Yoko�s 11th house and vise versa
You can help smooth the way for Yoko in her social relations
and professional connections. She appreciates your natural ability in helping
people to socialize inside her circle and you can feel that you have a valued
role to play, creating harmony between very disparate friends and
acquaintances.
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Yoko�s� Venus Sex Moon and Conj
Saturn
You are a soft and emotional person with a strong caring
side and sense of devotion. Love is completely tied up with security so you are
prepared to make many compromises to attain the closeness and safety you need.
You are family-oriented and attached to home and children. You are expert at
integrating a caring parental role with romantic and erotic intimacy.
Female: You strive to embody the qualities of the ideal
woman and make an effort to express maternal qualities when family needs are
paramount, and erotic qualities when romance is in the air.
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You prefer to play it safe in love and may find yourself
attracted to an older or more mature person - someone you can rely on, who can
provide structure and security in your relationship. Intimacy does not come
easily to you - you often express your feelings rather formally, even after
many years of being together. Neither do you demand exaggerated demonstrations
of love. For you a relationship is a pledge which involves more than romantic
love - there is the financial commitment to consider, as well as family
responsibilities. You are loyal and dedicated in your feelings, and have the
patience to see love through even when the going gets tough.
Female: You are not very confident of your ability to
attract men. You may be too careful and miss opportunities because you hide
your true feelings. But you are prepared to make a long-term commitment in the
name of love.
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John�s Venus Opposites Yoko�s Sun and Mercury and Conj her Neptune
John There is a
strong bond of love and affection between you, though you may often disagree on
matters of taste and fairness. Yoko has difficulty accepting your judgment
whilst you feel you know instinctively what is right in any given situation.
She may conceal her lack of ability in this area through bluster - but you know
how to get around her with good grace. You can get what you want through your
charms and are careful not to hurt your partner's pride. You tend to rely too
much on each other for declarations of admiration and affection - this is no
substitute for mutual respect, which is the hallmark of a lasting relationship.
The need Yoko feels to assert herself may not always
correspond with your need to feel secure and supported. If you want to get your
way, a little flattery will go a long way.
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This is a strong contact for communication though you will
often find that Yoko does not share your opinions and values. She often
misinterprets your emotional needs, responding intellectually to your
expressions of affection. She may feel that you fail to grasp her ideas. You
are simply interested in a greater intimacy and feel that her rational approach
creates distance. Nevertheless you learn a lot from each other and the
relationship will function well if you first satisfy your partner's need to
understand what makes you tick. You make a good team for bringing up children.
Venus first: It may exasperate you that Yoko relates to your
romantic needs in a flippant or analytical way but you can learn a lot if you
enter into dialogue with her.
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Though not a major influence this contact stimulates your
dreams or fantasies for good or ill. Yoko inspires you to use your imagination
and see things in a compassionate light but you may often feel disappointment
in the relationship, because dreams turn out to be illusions. Be aware that
your latent tendency to idealise your loved one is strongly stimulated. The
relationship may require a certain element of sacrifice perhaps, because of
some unhappiness, illness or existential emptiness which afflicts her. All your
love and affection may not be enough to make her satisfied, so it is important
for you to learn to disassociate yourself from your partner's problems and see
your relationship realistically. Be patient in your assessment of Yoko before
you make a commitment.
You will often find it difficult to express
your emotional needs in a way Yoko can understand clearly. You may wish for a
practical and realistic response from her but it will not be forthcoming and
this leaves you disorientated. Yoko universalises personal issues. Insist on a
personal response.
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