I've lost parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and
friends, but I've never lost a child.
So how can I say I know how you feel?
-because you won't. Life will have to go on.
The washing, cooking, cleaning, the common routine.
These chorse will take your mind off your loved one,
but the hurt will still be there
to you" -because they may not be.
Many mothers I've talked to say that after they have
lost a child, they easily lose their temper with
the remaining children. Some even
feel resentful that they're alive
and healthy when the other child is not.
to have another baby" -because that won't help.
A new baby cannot replace the one you've lost.
A new babywill fill your hours, keep you busy,
give you sleepless nights. But it will not
replace the one you've lost
your friends and relatives. They think they are helping.
They don't know what else to say. You will
find out who your true friends are at this time.
Many will avoid you because they can't face you.
Others will talk about the weather, the holidays
and the school concert but never about your child.
Never about how your coping
I care. Anytime. Anywhere." I'll talk about your
loved one. We'll laugh about the good memories.
I won't mind how long you grieve.
I won't tell you to pull yourself together.
No, I don't know how you feel -but with sharing,
perhaps I will learn a little of what you are going through.
And perhaps you will feel comfertable with me and
find your burden has eased. Try me.
-Written by Linda Sawley, a Pediatric
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