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Passing PageNow, for you beginners, there's actually a great deal to learn, and the teqniques I'm showing here may not work for you, as this is from personal experience; not from a group survey. This is only a helpful bit of text for you to look at your options, because many of the passing sites are for older guys, and they're a bit drab, dull, AKA: Old person stuff. I'm not old though, and I'm not tall, nor well endowed, nor big boned. I'm actually very petite, so if anyone else has my problems, this'll help a lot. Step number one: Hair 'The hair makes the man' -Fonzy, happy days
In the movie Victor Victoria, Julie Andrews has a combed back look that was very masculine at the time. However, her head shape was not what the hair cut was intended for, and as a result, it showed off the exceedingly feminine curve of her head, allowing all of us to realize she was a woman. Not to discourage those with a feminine head structure, I'm only saying that to be mindful of your head, women notice it, even after hormones and surgery. Look around at the different styles and choose five you like, then see what the guys who have that particular hair cuts head looks like, try to find one that matches your own, and you like the way it looks, then go to a barber (preferably an older person who doesn't go to beauty school) and just tell him what you want. If he has a problem, tell him its your head, you'll do as you damn well please, (Not in that way, he might shave you bald). Try to avoid getting a buzz, as it looks odd on anyone, and it'll make you look butch, not male. If you have light hair, and are worried that it will look bad or something, consider dying it black. You know how people where black to look slimmer? Works with heads too. And if you don't like it, eh, it'll grow out in a little while anyway. Now, if you want long hair, that's for you. My hair was long for a while, but I hated it. Avoid using girl clips and ribbons (duh), and wear it like a long haired man would, look around and your bound to find one you like, (PS, Don't let it look like the guy in the 'I can't believe it's not butter' commercials, I think he's a little too odd for anyone to be like, ^__^;). b. Facial/Body hair Oi, this part. Okay boio's, this is an important point. Try to avoid it if possible. If you are someplace new and someone asks why you're so...sparse, don't blush and change the subject. Laugh a little and make a joke like, 'My girlfriend decided to try that hair removal stuff on me while I was sleeping', this is bound to get a laugh, but if they press, just shrug and smile. Now, you could try the theater stuff, but it looks fake, and we want to pass here, not draw attention. I'd suggest avoiding it, just shave off the peach fuzz on your face and change the blade whenever it starts getting dull, so as to avoid acne or skin irritation. T people, you lucky dogs, you're probably growing facial and body hair as we speak! Use a lot of sensitive skin shaving cream, preferably warm, leave it on for a minute, take downward strokes, and change the blade twice a month, for the same reasons as above. But if you want that beard, keep in mind it takes some teens years to grow a beard, and then maybe only sparsely. If some places aren't coming in fast enough, try using a hair dye in the sparse areas to darken them to match the rest of your growing beard, a lot of bio guys do it too. Just 'cuz your a man doesn't mean you can grow a beard. Step number two: Binding Another bugger is binding, which is a pain in the ass for anyone, even us small chested dudes. To make yourself look flat, there are a number of options, and I'll list a few here. Actual binding implements range dramatically, from ace bandages to actual compression vests, there are a wide range of things. The cheapest is the ace bandage, but it's also known to in long term use cause serious medical problems, and they hurt like a bi-atch, restrict movement, and can leave tell tale roles if your out doing stuff. The next best are back braces, though they can cause damage from long term use too, but do help for larger guys. You simply tighten it around your bust line, put a tank on, then your normal shirt. I'd suggest getting something that breaths, or you might end up smelling bad, and uncomfortable, that and the rubber ones chaff. These usually cost about 10-40 US dollars, depending on what brand and what you like. (Check the sizes, I got one that was way too big for me, even if it said '1 size fits all') I personally have a An impromptu binder made out of...well, there are these new spandex shorts to make girls rears a little smaller? Yep, with the crotch cut up and the legs cut. It doesn't sound great, but it really flattens a guy out! (Cost $15.00) The expensive kinds are from 39-200 us dollars, and sometimes don't last for more that a couple months. T Kingdom has a great selection, but its from across the ocean in Thailand, so it takes a while. Others are abdomen reshapers for men that have been re-adjusted to fit the bust, Andy's Passing tipsis a great source for all of this and gives great details. Step number three: Clothes Oh yes, clothes. Very important, since people judge you by your appearance, sad but true. Shirts: Shirts are a good place to start, as they're are such wide varieties to choose from. I suggest going to maybe K-mart or ShopCo; someplace cheep to get you first outfit. Get a pair of jeans, a little larger than your waist and about the right length, a pair of boxers/briefs, tanks, and a T-shirt if you like. If your going to get a T, don't get something excessively large, because when it hangs down, it'll show off things that you don't want showing off. I know you want to hide the bulges, so keep this in mind. This effect makes your hips look much smaller, and it doesn't hang down to show off your binder. And get bright or distracting clothes, with horizontal stripes, it is very deceptive for people perceptions, they'll be more drawn to the pattern than to what is under it, unless it's very noticeable. Also, pants. Pants or shorts are important because most men don't wear skirts, (excluding Scotts...) or dresses. When you get your pants, make sure the size is about the widest part of your hips. This'll help out the bulges, but don't spend a great deal of money. If you're going on T, your sizes will change a great deal, and that money could have gone to getting other stuff. Wear them low on your hips, kinda sagging, and make sure they look right. Get a pair of khaki's, dark blue jeans, and lighter blue jeans. Also make sure their boot cut, because the hugging the calves jeans tend to feminize your legs. If they have side pockets its great; it hides your figure, and makes you look a little cooler. During the summer, no one wants to wear pants, so shorts are a necesity, so you'll need a pair, but don't get the tourist dad kind, (AKA, mid thigh) because women wear those too. Get shorts with the same requirements as the pants, (along with the shirt tuck thing I taught ya) and make sure they end either at your knee or passed it. The side pocket thing works here too, and get a pair of swimming trucks with large side pockets for your wallet. (PS, make sure you have fuzzy legs or you'll look like a poser) Shoes and socks are also important. Guys wear leather show shoes on special occasions (black), and leather shoes just to be a little better than casual (brown), with both or these they were black socks. Get the shoes from Payless or a cheap store at first, because hormones change your feet size too. (Random factoid: If a man and a woman just off a building and hit the ground, the mans feet will expand while the woman's contract) Be sure to get tennis shoes, go to the payless and grab a pair you like from the men's department. Also if you like, look for a pair of skater shoes. All of these shoes should be a size or two too big, to make your feet look bigger, thus giving even your feet a more male appearance. (With these you wear white socks) Boxers or briefs: um...if your have a packer, go with briefs, it's hold it better, if you have a glue on packer, you might chance boxers, but if your going packerless, just wear what your like, (Though boxers have cool designs ^__^;) Jewelry: Get a watch, one that isn't huge to dwarf your wrist, but not a girl one because that feminze's the wrist too. Get one from K-mart or something, nothing fancy, unless you're a VIP. A shark tooth necklace exceptable, and you can even get away with earrings. Hemp bracelets and necklaces work out well too, as long as they're not femme. Try to avoid rings, but class ring work. Wallets are a biggy, (My uncle carries a purse...but he's special) get one with a chain though, or you might get robbed. Go for either leather or fabric, the fake leather is stiff, and can be a real bugger for a great many reasons. Glasses should be a guy's frame, but something that looks good with you that you like. Hats: One thing I've notice is that when we put on baseball caps, we tend to look funny. I'd avoid any that isn't for a baseball team, and has those self size things. Get a sized cap with your fav team on it, and make sure it rests on a line across your forehead and behind your ears, and fits snugly. Old man of the sea hats work sometimes, but I wouldn't recommend them, since allot of girls like them too. Step Number Four: Packer Um...I don't think I can help much on this.
There are also a bunch of options to hold these in place.
Step Five: Manners Guys act different from girls, we all know this, we all have seen it, we understand that much. So how exactly do we go about changing a few things that people have instilled upon us since birth? Well, I basically for a few months just watched the guys around me and imitated them; immerse yourself in the guyness. When walking, because of our bone structure and fat distribution, our rear swishes when we walk. Make a concious effort you walk straight, firm, and with purpose. On the average, girls walk in as little space as possible, trying to keep out of everyones way, and with their eyes downcast. Keep your head up, try to keep your eyes on peoples faces, really, guys do this. Walk to where your going, don't plow, but don't shy away from everyone either. Also, strides are different for the sexes, Females on the average walk faster with one leg infront of the other like a tightrope, while Males puts one foot in front of where it had been on either side of a three inch beam, or so it seems, and they let their shoulders do the talking. If your in highschool/any school with text books or folders, girls tend to cary them up around their chest while the typical male holds the the books under his arm in an ape like fashion...if you don't get what I mean, look at the guys in your hall, you might see what I mean. Try that and see if it works. Another bugger that I've noticed, due to a chemical in our brains given to us a more modest way of being, which is due to the limited amount of Testosterone in our systems. Many FTM's before transition adopt an aggresive personality, though as we're sometimes still perceived as Female, this makes us a threat to males sometimes and females are abhorred that we act as we do. People fear aggresive females, so be careful. Its also suggested that you fit into the mold that is male, but I don't suggest it, because dissapearing is never the solution. Be who you are, but be aware of your audience. |
