Your desire to share a brit milah or another happy occasion with your child is not likely to precipitate a reconciliation. Some children may have to face a crisis in order to return home. That crisis may offer the needed jolt that the children need in order to say, "Oy, now that this tragedy has occurred, I see the need to include parents in my life."
Furthermore, that incident may have to be on the level of a tragedy:
Children may then realize that the advice they received from their peers cannot help them through their sad situation. They may then realize that only their parents can offer them the solace, comfort, security, and support that they need in order to survive the crisis.
This does not mean that parents of rebellious children should look forward to a tragedy. It does not even mean that a crisis can offer a guaranteed cure for the problem.
However, it does mean that a crisis may trigger a change in the child's behavior, thereby leading them to consider a reconciliation with their parents.
If they can then follow their own good instincts, without being misled once more by their peers, then there may be hope for a reconciliation.
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