Sometimes this old man gets some pretty good questions about what my feelings are toward certain subjects and so I will try to answer some of them today. One of my readers is an adopted child, and he wanted to know if I had any personal feelings about adoption. Here is a subject that requires a lot of thought before you bring forth your views on it. First if you say the wrong thing, you could break that person's heart or you could break the heart of those two people who chose to adopt that child into thier family.. My feeling is that there are times when things happen for a reason, and that when a child is adopted, he or she is done so with love by two people who want to share thier love and thier life with another person.

Sometimes you have to look at the full picture to find out why this came about in the first place. I believe in Angels and my belief is that when a child is born, he or she is an Angel sent by God to two wonderful people who will spend most of the rest of thier lives nurturing that child with love and devotion. But there are times when a mother will decide that she can't care for that child in the way that is needed and so she gives that child away for adoption, so that her child that she carried around for about nine months, could have a better way of life. My thought on this is that if God did not think it was a good idea, he would of let her know in some way. That mother gave her child away out of love in most cases, because she knew that she could not take care of it.

So when these two adoptive parents decide that they want to adopt a child, they are doing it out of love and also because they were destined to do so with the will of God. So as the years go by, the child will naturally wonder if he or she was abandoned or given up because they were not loved. My thought on that is that he or she was loved enough by the natural mother, so she gave that child a chance at a better life. God works in mysterious ways, and sometimes it is better to just accept it and go on with your life. But what happens when that child starts wanting to look for the natural mother, and they start asking questions that will hurt the feelings of the adoptive parents. They wonder if thier natural mother really cares about them and so they start looking for her. For some adoptive parents, that can cause some bad feelings and for some , that child will recieve some help from his adoptive parents in trying to locate the natural mother. My next thought on that is that I really believe that the real mother knows where her child is and that in most cases is comfortable enough to leave it alone.

Whether there will be some problems between the child and both sets of parents depends on how the search started and for what reason. Sometimes there is a medical reason behind the search and that is ok in my book, but I have to look at this in the way that I would feel, if a child that I adopted and loved for all these years decided that he or she wanted to find thier natural parent. I would feel hurt because it was myself and my wife who chose that child to love and raise. The key words here are chose and love. They chosed you and they loved you, and just maybe the search for the natural mother should not start. Only those who are involved can make that decision. If that child and the adoptive parents can be comfortable with it, then start the search, but be aware that somewhere down the line, someone will be hurt , and my thought on that is that you have to use some common sense in this matter

Just remember that you were chosen to be part of a family by two wonderful people who will always be your mother and father, and they are the ones that you really need to think more about. But just because you were given up my your real parent, don't hate her. She in most cases was thinking about your benefit and not hers. As I have stated many times, things happen for a reason. We have to know why it happen sometimes, but we don;t have to hurt someone to find out.

As always, I want to make it clear that this is my opinion and not that of the newspaper nor anyone else. I can only tell you how I would feel, and what I would do. I hope that anyone who reads this, will take some time to think before they act on this matter. Love is a gift from God and we should never take it lightly. Life is a gift from God and it too should not be taken lightly. The love of life is yours for the asking.. Do as you see fit and always walk that straight narrow road of life with lots of love in your heart. As always I speak from within my heart, and I write straight from the heart. What I do here in life will follow me in death. To love is to be loved, and there are many out there that need that little bit of love to make thier day.

Until we visit again, I bid you my love and I ask God to bless each and everyone of you. Don't forget to pray for me as I need it very much. Talk with you later; as I am signing out for this visit.  Uncle Ray