The Hanes believe that a child in a custody situation is really homeless. In addition, the option forever exists for one party to continually bring the matter up in court. To better understand the concepts of custody as opposed to adoption, here are some links to some articles on the subject by Nolo Press:
Thirteen Years in the Family Court System
Nolo's Fast Facts: Child Custody and Visitation
Spare the Custody Fight, Save the Children
Courts Try to Get Out of the Child Custody Business